I have recently been corresponding with an adult adoptee and she asked me why I never opened discussions on my thoughts about adoption. I had to tell her honestly that I feared being attacked. Also–this blog has just been a celebration of my son and I wanted it to be full of happy memories.
Still, I know what a life line adult adoptee blogs have become for me. As much as adoptive parent blogs that deal with the tough stuff that I am usually scared to tackle. It’s a tricky business–raising a child outside of your race from a foreign land. So many of us are struggling day by day to do the right things for our children to ensure that they grow up in an open and honest environment that is full of love.
We cannot make up for their loss. We cannot make up for their lives being so drastically changed. I hope to love Morgan through it–to give him the support that he needs to face the world that has not always been kind to him.
It will take strength to help my child go back to VN one day if that is what he decides. It will be hard because I know that he won’t blend in while visiting his home country. He will always be “American” and different, just as he will be “Vietnamese” and different in his adopted country.
It hurts me when people tell me that he is a “lucky child” or that his life will be “so much better”.